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It’s becoming extremely clear that in today’s culture being a Christian is perceived as being a bad person. Christians are looked at as unloving and judgmental. We are thought to be ignorant and naive. I’m torn on why this is. In part, I think it’s because many of the most outspoken “Christians” are such things. They forget that Jesus hung out with the people that the religious folks looked down on. He chilled with real, normal people and was a friend to them and treated them with respect. Some Christians seem to think that God and science are not compatible either. They think that any kind of evolution cannot exist and they argue against evolution because of their faith in God. I see all science and development of life as a work of God, though. I see the progress of lifeforms through generations as his art. I dont think the two concepts- science and God are mutually exclusive events but that the complexity of the world is just more evidence in a God who is the greatest chemist and physicist that has ever existed. They take the scripture on creation to mean a literal 7 days and argue the world is only 2,000 years old, instead of remembering that to God “a thousand years is like a day and a day is like a thousand years”. Each one of those 7 “days” could have been a billion years each in our way of marking time.
But then I also remember that Jesus was hated as well. He wasn’t persecuted and nailed to a cross for no reason. He was not always the most popular fellow either. So maybe times aren’t so different. Being a follower and believer in Christ means being hated. Depending on the day- that can mean being hated by the super religious or it could mean being hated by the world.


Thought of the Day

I dont usually like being a Christian. Sometimes I wish I could just shake that part of myself off and walk away from it. It just does not work that way, though. I know Jesus is Lord of my life like I know my left leg is part of my body and that without him I risk eternal death. That isn’t a risk worth taking for me.

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ImageKids can be really trying. They may be adorable and yes, we love them with all our hearts and minds and souls, but that doesn’t mean we are always patient with them and understanding. The years may go by fast but the days are often long, tiring, and bedtime cannot come soon enough. Something I have been having to remind myself of lately is that my kids are worth being patient for. They are worth talking nicer to. They are worth listening to even when I do not want to listen. They are little but they are people and have thoughts and feeling and desires and ideas and they want to share them and be understood and be responded to, even when we feel it’s something silly or small or common sense.

When the kids are breaking a rule that I have been reminding them of all day long, it can become a huge struggle to be patient. But they are worth doing it for and your kids are too. When our kids are older, we don’t want their memory of us to be red faced and yelling about standing on the couch (for the 500th time) or of us yelling at them for a sibling fight that they were actually the victim of and not the initiator. Our kids deserve to be heard and loved on, even when we have had rough days. They deserve to be talked to like equals and reminded of the rules in love and kindness, and not with impatience and aggression. Even when our intentions are good and for their safety, if it comes out of our mouths in anger, the lesson of love is lost on our children.

When we talk our kids down and let ourselves snap, we are bullying our own children. We are taking advantage of our size and authority over them and using it against them. When we angrily grab them and move them to a place where they are less likely to get hurt- in our minds we are getting them to safety, but they see the aggression and all they are taught is that we can be rough and get physical to those smaller than us who do things we don’t like.

We are all human and it can be extremely difficult to get through a day without getting at all impatient and exasperated, but our kids are worth the effort. They are worth reminding ourselves that they need to be treated equally. They are not trying to upset us. They are not trying to mistreat the house, hurt their sibling (well, we hope not!), or put themselves in danger. They are just playing the way they play and being who they are meant to be at these young ages. As parents, there are better, nicer ways to remind our kids of the rules. There are more loving ways to move them to safety. If your tone and presence is impatient and frustrated, the message you are sending your child is one of impatience and frustration.
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Remember, these little people may seem little right now but they will grow to be adults soon enough. What kind of adults are we trying to raise? I know I hope to raise adults who are kind, loving and patient. Adults who respect others and sympathize with others feelings. Adults with empathy and compassion. Adults with healthy coping mechanisms and aren’t easily brought to anger. In order to do that, I need to be the kind of adult to them I want them to become, because we are the biggest influence in their lives.

It takes work to change. It takes work, and thought, and purpose and intention to direct our actions when our emotions and exhaustion is getting the best of us. Our children are worth it, though. Knowing we made their day a little better. That they were yelled at less, laughed more, and had better lifelong examples of kindness instilled in them is worth it.


I normally walk on eggshells with this subject. After all, I haven’t always been on this side of the debate and I know there is a process to cleansing your own brain from cultural misconceptions and lies and swallowing that big red pill of truth. But lets get blunt.

I understand most people and can relate to where they are at when it comes to circumcision. After all, had my oldest been a boy, she would have been amongst the circumcised and I’d be among the moms wishing I had known better then. I know what it’s like to be in support of circumcision and to believe it is a good thing.

But let me ask you something.

If you are a mom who has had a home birth, or even fought for a super natural hospital birth– Why is it you can see that your body is meant to birth naturally and births best when not interfered with, but you cannot see that your sons body is meant to be kept the way it is at birth and functions best when left alone?

If you don’t vaccinate or do an alternative vaccine schedule– why is it you are willing to see that immune systems are strong when built naturally and that messing with your child’s body can have serious consequences- but you can’t accept that cutting off part of your sons penis is effecting his body’s health and can have serious consequences?

If you are a Christian and believe that God made us in his image– Why do you think you should circumcise your son when God created him with a foreskin and the New Testament tells us that circumcision is worthless?
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If you are Jewish or a Jew turned Christian- and a doctor is performing the circumcision, Why are you not having a real Jewish circumcision if it’s for religious reason? You do know that a medical circumcision does not meet all the requirements for the religious ritual done at a Bris, right?
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If you are a mother against circumcision and leaving it up to the dad– Why aren’t you fighting for your son? Why do you not just put your foot down? Marriage is 50/50 these days and if anyone, including my husband, tried to let a knife cut any one of my kids- Id flip my lid. It would not happen.
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I know that there is a process to learning. There is a process to adjusting to a new understanding. There is a process to having your eyes opened to the fact that circumcised penis’s are not “normal penises” but intact penis’s are normal. When parents who have opened the door to being educated, Parents who do question cultural norms and doctors and grandparents and do research for themselves decide to circumcise- I question. And my heart aches for you too. That you are so so close to being ok with natural and comfortable with how our bodies were created to be. I feel for you because I am so sure you will some day look and see a mom-mistake. Maybe today you don’t see it. Maybe today your tail feathers have been ruffled and you’ve been thrown into defense mode about how your sons body is yours to what you want with. You’re the mom and how dare I. I feel positive, though, someone as open to truth and learning as you are will someday regret that you didnt trust his body to be perfect. That you, his mom, felt he needed cosmetic surgery to be complete. That you, his mom, felt you owned him and had the right to make such permanent alterations to your sons body. Your son who will grow to be a man. A man who was raised by a smart, open mom, who will teach him to question life and research and , as a result, may regret the choice you made over his body for the rest of his life. Because you are a good mom. You want what is best. And though the rest of moms are good, well desiring moms too- they are so far from the truth on this issue that they will have that excuse to ease their hurt one day if they come to regret their sons circumcisions. But you were so close. You were so knowing. You were so “there”. My heart hurts for you moms.

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Circumcision is a highly confrontational topic amongst today’s parents. In America we are very desensitized to the concept of male circumcision. And As Christians, we know that it was at one time a God mandated act for all Jewish men to show their commitment and to mark them as his people. We Christians often have the perception that honoring that Old Testament command honors our Jewish heritage (our Savior was a Jewish man, after all) even if the act is no longer a mandated one for us. Yet, when we go into the New Testament  we discover that it is not an encouraged practice to continue.

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Part 1. What The New Testament Says
First we see that Circumcision means nothing for our salvation. We probably know this, right? After all we are to speak with our mouths and believe in our hearts that Jesus is Lord and we are saved, not speak with our mouths, believe with our hearts and remove a part of our penis’s.

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Romans 2:27
27 The one who is not circumcised physically and yet obeys the law will condemn you who, even though you have the written code and circumcision, are a lawbreaker.

Circumcised or intact does not matter when it comes to if you follow the law or not. The circumcision of the body makes no difference for condemnation

Romans 2:28
28 A person is not a Jew who is one only outwardly, nor is circumcision merely outward and physical.

God no longer values a circumcised penis. It went from being symbolic to being nothing but removing a part of a penis just because. And since the “medical benefits” are all dis-proven myths (read on for info on health), all circumcision is cosmetic surgery on an infant, who can’t safely be under enough anesthesia to not feel the procedure, just for their parents penis preference.
Romans 2:29
29 No, a person is a Jew who is one inwardly; and circumcision is circumcision of the heart, by the Spirit, not by the written code. Such a person’s praise is not from other people, but from God.
Circumcision has been transformed from physical transformation to circumcision of the heart. Which means, to remove the sin and wickedness from your heart and follow Christ.

Romans 3:1
3 What advantage, then, is there in being a Jew, or what value is there in circumcision?

1 Corinthians 7:19
19 Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing. Keeping God’s commands is what counts.

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Part 2: Biblical Circumcision vs Today’s Medical Circumcision

  
Today we hear a lot about whether circumcision was or was not promoted or advised but little about what circumcision was. We know that today’s common medical circumcision includes the removal of all of, or most of the male foreskin. What we read about circumcision in the bible, it is often assumed that we are referring to the same procedure done in a similar fashion. With further research we find, it is not.

    The original biblical circumcision, starting at Abraham’s time, was called the “Milah”. It was a much smaller removal of skin, only actually removing the very tip of the foreskin that extends beyond the penis, leaving most of the male foreskin intact. The glands that connect the foreskin to the penis remained intact and would have been left to retract on their own as a child got older, the way an uncircumcised child’s is. This type of circumcision continued through into the New Testament and would have been the same procedure that Christ endured as an infant.

A second step was added to the religious ritual in, 140AD, after it was already declared that circumcision is no longer something necessary for men to be burdened with in the name of salvation. 

So we need to be mindful of what we are comparing. Apples to Oranges. Circumcision today is nothing like the procedure once mandated by God. Also, God removed that mandate and the New Testament clears up any doubt that the removal of any percentage for foreskin means anything to God for Christians.

Though Jewish families still ironically refer to circumcision as a Brit Milah, most groups follow the form of circumcision that came after 140 AD, the Periah- which is not the biblical supported circumcision of the Old Testament

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Part 3: The Illusion of Health and Cleanliness

Lets start this by saying that Americans are really good at coming up with a reason when they need one. When circumcision originally became popular in the U.S. it was to prevent boys from masturbating by removing the most sensitive and sexual part of their penis (Yes, the foreskin is where the majority of their nerve endings are and the removal of it greatly effects sexual activity for both the male and his sexual partner). Worked well, eh? When that crazy talk was disproved they went on to other things like, “Circumcision cures epilepsy!”. With our science today we can see just how crazy that is but now that we have reached beyond that we have new myths that are constantly being proven wrong.
The argument that circumcised males are more protected from HIV, for example, is from a study performed in Africa where we took 1/2 the participating males and circumcised them and the other half of them and left them intact and then watched to see which group got HIV the quickest. The clock started as soon as they got their assigned position, meaning that those left intact got to go right on out and start spreading it around while the group assigned to be circumcised had to wait for their procedure and then wait 6 weeks to heal before they could become active. In that period of time, the intact males were already off catching their diseases, giving the illusion that intact males get HIV quicker than circumcised males. TA-DA! Study performed. This is the study that we are basing this stat off of. Other studies done shows there to be no difference in HIV between circumcised and uncircumcised males.
The issue of cleanliness is a bit nuts too. Infant males foreskin is attached to the head of the penis (the same way fingernails are attached to your finger) so when boys are young their penis only needs to be wiped cleaned just like a finger would be wiped clean. No retraction. As the male gets older the foreskin naturally becomes more pliable and loose. The only person who should ever retract his foreskin is the male himself because he can feel how comfortable it is and how far it goes back on his own and pulling it back further can damage the cells keeping it attached. Once it is retractable the male just washes it in water while showering or bathing. No soaps, no scrubbing, just like women don’t scrub down their labia’s. Just rinse.
When it comes to infection rates in males, the issue of infections in intact males is very tied into this cleaning process. When a young male, whose foreskin is still adhered to the head of the penis, is forcibly retracted, it causes a wound on the penis. See, the foreskin is protecting the penis from bacteria and germs but when that protection is ripped off, it becomes a breeding ground for those germs. The high rates of infections for males are a direct result of improper care and causing a wound in an area where urine and feces can end up (remember, their wound bandage is a dirty diaper!) . When males are left alone and not forcibly retracted, there is no higher risk of infection in males.photo 22

All in all, There really is little to no good reason to circumcise as an American Christian. God created males bodies to be and function as they are meant to and if he didnt want boys to have foreskin he wouldn’t have given it to them. After all, it isnt like he made a mistake that he afterwards said “oops, whack that thing off! I didn’t mean to put that there”. The foreskin has important functions for men from infancy through adulthood.

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I get a lot of people wanting to know why I am so passionate about babies being breastfed. Why does it matter? Why do I insist on talking about it? Why do I think it’s ok to do in public?
Besides for the thousands of medical, scientifically proven reasons to breastfeed, like breast milk provides your baby with all the nutrients he or she needs (while formula tries and constantly improves, is still missing many vital vitamins, nutrients and *hormones*- yes hormones, that baby needs to properly grow and develop), promotes bonding between mom and baby, decreases postpartum depression, is always the right temperature, is always ready, and never requires bottle washing- Not to mention to decreases moms AND baby girls chances of ever getting breast cancer, there is also a foundational reason to breastfeed. It is what we are biologically meant to do and how we were created to feed our babies. As a Christian, I firmly believe that God did it right the first time and no amount of tampering in a formula lab is going to make baby formula even come close to how God made it.
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The Bible actually speaks quite a bit about breastfeeding. Awhile back I wrote a Facebook note, (this note was also published on The Guggie Daily) listing scriptures that mentioned breastfeeding and throwing in bits of my own feedback throughout. This is going to be an updated, cleaned up version of that because that is what every Christian should be asking themselves if they are questioning appropriateness and the necessity of breastfeeding.

Luke 11:27 (New Living Translation)

 27 As he was speaking, a woman in the crowd called out, “God bless your mother—the womb from which you came, and the breasts that nursed you!
whoa mama! You just yelled over a crowd to Jesus about sucking on his moms breasts? And it was put into scripture?! Hey, why doesn’t this very public announcement to sucking on boobs not sound more offensive than this? Maybe because it simply is not considered offensive?
Being able to nurse and be nursed was actually considered a blessing and it was a curse for those who couldn’t.


Genesis 49:25

By the God of your father Who will help you, and by the Almighty Who will bless you with blessings of the heavens above, blessings lying in the deep beneath, blessings of the breasts and of the womb.

Have we come to the place where we consider the boobs who haven’t nursed to be the blessed ones?

Luke 23:29

For the time will come when you will say, ‘Blessed are the childless women, the wombs that never bore and the breasts that never nursed!

Have we become cruel by taking nursing away from our babies? By taking the perfect food that God created for our infants and replacing it with medical emergency replacement supplementation?

Lamentations 4:3

Even the jackals draw out the breast, they give suck to their young ones, but the daughter of my people has become cruel, like the ostriches in the wilderness { that desert their young}. The tongue of the nursing babe cleaves to the roof of its mouth for thirst; the young children beg for food, but no one gives it to them.
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I really dont believe God minds us feeding these delicate little babies who gave to us wherever we are at the time they need to be fed. After all, he himself invites nursing mothers and babies to a huge public affair.

Joel 2:16

Gather the people, consecrate the assembly; bring together the elders, gather the children, those nursing at the breast. Let the bridegroom leave his room and the bride her chamber.

After all, God speaks so fondly and comfortingly about breastfeeding.

Isaiah 60:16

You will drink the milk of nations and be nursed at royal breasts. Then you will know that I, the LORD, am your Savior, your Redeemer, the Mighty One of Jacob.

He shows such compassion to these children that he loves so.

Isaiah 49:15

Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you!

Scripture shows us what a high priority breastfeeding was and how it was encouraged to continue on until the right time for the mother and baby. The average weaning age during this period (and all people, if we allowed children to nurse until self weaned) is 3-5yrs!


I Samuel 1:21-23
And Elkanah, and all his house, went up to offer to the Lord the yearly sacrifice, and his vow. But Hannah did not go, for she said to her husband, I will not go until the child is weaned, and then I will bring him, that he may appear before the Lord, and remain there as long as he lives. Elkanah her husband said to her, Do what seems best to you, wait until you have weaned him; only, may the Lord establish His word. So Hannah remained and nursed her son until she weaned him.

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God considers a mother who breastfeeds to be devoted and one who cherishes.

I Thessalonians. 2:7-8

But we behaved gently when we were among you, like a devoted mother nursing and cherishing her own children. So, being thus tenderly and affectionately desirous of you, we continued to share with you not only God’s good news ( the Gospel) but also our own lives as well, for you had become so very dear to us.

Psalm 22:10

 9-11 And to think you were midwife at my birth, 

      setting me at my mother’s breasts! 

   When I left the womb you cradled me; 

      since the moment of birth you’ve been my God.

 

And there are even more examples of where God proves that he is not skittish about our breasts or the act of breastfeeding. Please, take note that he never hints at “being discreet” or using a public restroom to nurse in. He looks at breastfeeding as a beautiful act that embodies his closeness to us and his desire and ability to nourish and fill and love, all in one act. He often uses breastfeeding as a symbol to describe how he adores and cherishes us and nothing God does is indecent or something that needs to be hidden. So let your light shine. Let your baby nurse and let your shame and distorted views of this wholesome, pure act fall off of you.

Isaiah 66:11-13 

11 For you will nurse and be satisfied 

   at her comforting breasts; 

you will drink deeply 

   and delight in her overflowing abundance.”

 12 For this is what the LORD says:

   “I will extend peace to her like a river, 

   and the wealth of nations like a flooding stream; 

you will nurse and be carried on her arm 

   and dandled on her knees. 

13 As a mother comforts her child, 

   so will I comfort you; 

   and you will be comforted over Jerusalem.”

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Psalms 22:9

“Yet you are He who took me out of the womb; You made me hope and trust when I was on my mother’s breasts.”

Song of Solomon 7:8

“Let your breasts be as clusters of the grapevine, and the scent of your breath like apples..””I resolve I will climb the palm tree, I will grasp its branches. “

 

Hosea 1:8

“Now when [Gomer] had weaned Loruhamah, she became pregnant again and bore a son.”

Isaiah 40:11

“He will feed His flock like a shepherd, He will gather the lambs in His arm, He will carry them in His bosom, and will gently lead those that have their young.”

Genesis 21:7
And she added, “Who would have said to Abraham that Sarah would nurse children? Yet I have borne him a son in his old age.”

Proverbs 5:19

19 A loving doe, a graceful deer— 

   may her breasts satisfy you always, 

   may you ever be intoxicated with her love.

Song of Solomon 8:1

If only you were to me like a brother, who was nursed at my mother’s breasts! Then, if I found you outside, I would kiss you, and no one would despise me.

Isaiah 28:9

“Who is it he is trying to teach? To whom is he explaining his message? To children weaned from their milk, to those just taken from the breast?

*disclosure- I do not think moms who can not nurse or have a medical condition, or have adopted children are cruel or doing anything wrong. I simply want people to see the beauty in breastfeeding and for those of us who have been blessed with the ability to nurse not be put down or shamed for it when God clearly created it to be a pure and wholesome way to nourish our babies*