Welcome to the January 2013 Carnival of Natural Parenting: Recovering from the Holidays This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama. This month our participants have written about how their families get back to normal after the holidays are over.
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Our Holiday Season has come to a close but some of the bad habits that came with it have not. After eating to our hearts delight and keeping way more candy, chocolates, and all around carb and sugar filled foods in the house, my family has that sweet tooth habit to kick. Us adults know this and prepare for it. We make New Years resolutions (and might even still be sticking to them!) but our kids need a new start just as much. All my girls need are 1-2 days of heightened amounts of junk to forget that we are a healthy family. The good food strikes begin and the expectations for sweets are high. So here are some ways to help your littles kick their sweet toothers.
1- Get it out of Reach
Hide it, put it in a closet, or even just throw it away! The junk needs to be away from their reach and their vision. They can’t know where it is or see you snacking on it either. The goal is to get it out of sight, out of mind. If you throw it away, though, don’t do it in their view or in a way that will torment them. Remember, the goal is just to get the temptation out of the house, not to punish our children.
2- Stock up on Healthy Snacks
Fill your house with apples, bananas, grapes, berries, carrots, celery, peanut butter (or almond butter or whatever you use), raisins, unsalted nuts, sunflower seeds… hey, you can even keep some goldfish in the house (at least there are no dyes in them) as an “after some fruits and veggies” snack! You want to give them options. Yes, the junk is gone but their choices are not. They still have a wide range of great options from sweet to salty for every mood. They may decline their options a few times but just hold out and eventually, they will find one of their options favorable.
3- Do Not cave in
Your children will not starve themselves. I know what it is like to start doing the math of how much they weigh, vs how tall they are, vs how much they run in the day and KNOW there is no way they have much spare to live off of. Still, they won’t starve themselves. The starving kids in those Africa commercials never turn their noses up at that muck stew they are being served. That is because they are hungry! Your child wont get anywhere near as hungry as one of those kids before deciding to settle for a healthy option. If they are able to hold out and say they won’t eat any of those options, guess what? They are not that hungry.
4- Don’t Stress about it
Do you know what happens when you freak out or get anxious about your child eating healthy foods? They connect healthy foods to anxiety mentally. If you are yelling or getting upset over them eating (or not eating) their healthy foods, then they are probably getting stressed about those healthy foods too. Just seeing them on their plate could likely start giving them an uneasy feeling in the pit of their stomachs. Stay relaxed! If they eat, fantastic! If they don’t, try to stay calm and mellow and rational. After all, we are trying to raise children who grow to be adults that love eating and living healthy. If salads and veggies give them anxiety as adults and reminds them of mommy stomping around her kitchen in a huff, they probably won’t want much to do with those healthy foods even as adults.
So good luck and have fun. Maybe let your child pick out their own healthy option from the grocery store to get them pumped about the snack they picked out themselves. Eat healthy too and talk up how much you love your healthy foods. Have fun and find delight in filling your home back up with vibrant, delicious foods.
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Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:
(This list will be live and updated by afternoon January 14 with all the carnival links.)
- Pinterest Inspiration for Easier Winter Holidays Shannon, writing at Natural Parents Network, shares inspiration for having more relaxed winter holidays from their Handmade Holidays Pinterest board.
- Seven Recipes for Beans – Post Holiday Cleaning — Destany at They Are All of Me shares her favorite bean recipes that she hopes will help her body recover from overindulging her sweet tooth during the holidays.
- The Recovery in the Change — Laura at Pug in the Kitchen made changes in her life and attitude throughout 2012 and was pleasantly surprised at how those changes impacted her holiday recovery!
- Could this question change your life for ever? — To get your new year off on the right footing, Mrs Green of Little Green Blog is challenging us all to love ourselves with commitment and discipline. She asks you to focus on a simple question which might just bring you back in balance…
- Holiday Recovery — Meegs at A New Day talks about how the holidays can be overwhelming for a toddler, and how she’s helping her 3 year old recover.
- 5 Ways to Detox After the Holidays — Brittany at The Pistachio Project gives a few ways to help you detox and get back on track after the holiday season has passed.
- 3 Simple Ways to Establishing Rhythm After the Holidays or Any Time — Sheila at A Living Family shares 3 simple ways to reestablish a rhythm of connection and calm in your family after holidays, visitors, travel or any time.
- Gemstones For Holiday Hangoverss — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama delves into the power of gemstones as an often overlooked means of dealing with the holiday letdown.
- Getting back to Healthy — Bess at A Warrior Mom talks about the struggle of getting young ones back to eating healthy after several days to weeks of getting more candy and sweets than normal for the holidays and gives some suggestions on how to get them back to eating healthy in the new year.
- Post Christmas Juice Feast — Sam at Love Parenting explains why she has created a new tradition of juice feasting, and how she includes her toddler when detoxing.
- The Java Monkey On My Back — Christy at Eco Journey in the Burbs realizes it is time to kick her cup of Joe habit as a first step toward detoxing.
- Minimalist Holidays — Jorje of Momma Jorje doesn’t find much need for recovery after her minimalist version of the holidays.
- Do something for you — Lauren at Hobo Mama urges you to find a silly and indulgent reward of me-time — and she has hers.
- do we recover? — Kenna at Million Tiny Things wonders what recovery really means in the context of the tragedies of this past holiday season.
- 37 Easy Ways to Save Money — Shannon at GrowingSlower is sharing these money-saving tips to help get your budget back on track after the holidays.
- A Two Year Old’s Resolutions — That Mama Gretchen is putting the holidays behind her with a spin on traditional resolutions — New Year’s goals for her two-year-old! Sound crazy? Read on for an explanation!
- How to Find Balance after the Holidays — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now tells her favorite ways to start a new year with hope and calmness.
- Fresh Awakening — For Luschka at Diary of a First Child, the new year has coincided with a return to restful nights. With sleep, she’s found new directions in life, but while she can’t make too many changes to her life right now, she’s inspired and excited about the future.
- Learning to slow down after a busy Festive Season — Stoneageparent describes the joys and lows of this year’s festive season, as well as her New Year’s resolutions.
- Detoxing’ Your Toddler After the Holidays — Does your family suffer side effects from the holidays? Join Christine from African Babies Don’t Cry to learn how she detoxed herself and her toddler off the treats and festivities of the season.
- Scheduling is OK! — Jaye Anne at Wide Awake, Half Asleep explores the possibilities of the — SCHEDULE!!
- Holiday-Free but not Stress-Free — Mercedes at Project Procrastinot takes it easy after moving with her husband and new babies to Scotland.
- A Vacation from the World — Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children retreats with her family at the end of every year in order to recuperate and enjoy one another.
- On the Road to Recovery — Dionna at Code Name: Mama isn’t just recovering from the holidays, she’s recovering from a lifestyle.
- We Never Left the Grind — Erika Gebhardt compares a typical day pre-holidays and post-holidays.
- Remembering and Recovering from the Holidays (One day at a time) — Emily at S.A.H.M i AM is recovering from holidays slowly–taking one day at a time–while trying to remember all the sweet moments that passed too quickly.
- 5 a Day — To get back on track Jennifer at True Confessions of a Real Mommy needed a simple system to help her family learn new values.
- Holiday Detox & Healing: Bieler Broth — Megan at The Boho Mama shares her secret for a gentle, whole-foods-based post-holiday detox: Bieler Broth!
- I’m Mama Not Supermom — After a year filled with changes Angela at EarthMamas World has to remind herself that she does not have to be supermom while recovering from the holiday chaos.
Dionna Ford
14/01/2013 at 11:05 am
I’ll admit it – I need a kick in the pants to return to healthy eating more than my littles. It doesn’t help that my sister made me homemade Junior Mints (zomg, so good), and they’re hanging out in my freezer, calling me to grab one every time I walk past the fridge. Soon they will be gone, and I will mourn, and then I will get back on the path of health 😉
~Dionna @ CodeNameMama.com
bessbedell
14/01/2013 at 11:42 am
I can so understand! I got rid of quite a few but Im still trying to kick the chip habit Ive gotten back into (I’m a salty carb kind of girl) but my mom is living with us and buys a lot of chips! LOL and then I eat those chips and feel bad for eating all her chips and buy her a replacement bag and eat that bag too. LOL I know if it’s hard for us its hard for the kids too. We have the rational of why we need to kick it and still struggle. They just have the cravings without the understanding of why they cannot get it satisfied now.
meegs1982
14/01/2013 at 11:28 am
My pants are a reminder that I haven’t been treating myself well this holiday season, and that its time to get back to feed myself in a way that is good! These are great tips for the whole family.
bessbedell
14/01/2013 at 11:43 am
mine too! I feel like I’m looking a bit sausage-y in my clothing lately. not a good look at all. haha
Shannon
14/01/2013 at 11:55 am
#1 is the way I always start. If it’s not in the house, it can’t be around to tempt us. Sadly, I can’t convince some people in my family to stop buying me cheap chocolates during Christmas time.
bessbedell
14/01/2013 at 11:57 am
ive had to learn that sometimes money gets wasted. If they insist on buying it when they know I’m trying to stay away from it- the family member wasted their own money… I can throw it away or re-gift it guilt free. 🙂
Kenna
14/01/2013 at 12:20 pm
I’m tempted to selectively read this as a justification for indulging my dislike of salad-making. Probably better to stash the half-gnawed gingerbread houses instead.
bessbedell
14/01/2013 at 12:23 pm
hahaha. sounds like you need to spice up your salads! I should start making blog posts for all the different salads I make. They never get old 🙂
Destany
14/01/2013 at 3:00 pm
I totally love what you said about our anxiety towards our children eating healthy foods teaches them to associate healthy snacks with anxiety. Awesome statement there!
For the past two weeks, we have run out of fruit two days before our scheduled trip to the store. I buy a bunch of banana, and 5lbs. of apples and 5lbs. of oranges. I honestly think our kids naturally crave fruit this time of year as their little bodies do their own detox – not to mention the colds and flus stalking us. 🙂 Thanks for the brilliant post!
bessbedell
14/01/2013 at 5:12 pm
thanks Destany! I love how much fruit my kids eat when it’s out and available to them. I hate the cost of buying so much fruit but them and their lifelong health are worth it.
Lauren @ Hobo Mama
14/01/2013 at 3:59 pm
This is such a great article! We’re definitely trying the out of sight, out of mind trick, as well as not replenishing the things that get used up. I like your advice to have plenty of yummy healthful things to offer as replacements — so true. And #3 is one I wish my husband would take to heart! He gets so nervous for them. 🙂
bessbedell
14/01/2013 at 5:14 pm
It can be hard. We catch ourselves sometimes making food a stressful thing and have to stop and reign ourselves back in. We are human. But I think once we came to terms with the fact that force feeding or forcing finishing their plates or trying a certain item was making healthy eating a negative thing in their lives, it became a lot easier to be laid back with it. Maybe talk to your hubby and help him to see how much it stressed them out and that they will have a healthier relationship with foods if it doesn’t give them anxiety. 🙂
Sam at Love Parenting
14/01/2013 at 5:25 pm
Great advice – Out of sight definitely is out of mind in our home (For my son at least, not so easy for me!) If he can only see fruit, then that’s what he asks for!
bessbedell
14/01/2013 at 5:27 pm
that’s great. My girls get suspicious that I’m holding out on them but it doesnt take long for them to ask for a banana or some yogurt
mommajorje
14/01/2013 at 8:28 pm
Excellent ideas! I totally get addicted to the sweets myself. This weekend, though, I made a big deal of making a green smoothie (I haven’t made one in a couple of years). I shared it with my DD and then made a fruit salad the next day.
It seems my timing may have been perfect with my Snack Shelf.
Christy
15/01/2013 at 12:21 am
Great ideas!
Although I just can’t seem to throw away the yummy chocolate treats, the other candy in our home has been tossed. And you are so right, stocking the fridge and cupboard with healthy alternatives like their favourite fruits and vegetables will encourage the healthier choices. (And I would never hide in the pantry eating some chocolate after I told my kids they couldn’t have any….definitely never).
bessbedell
15/01/2013 at 7:57 am
hahaha my husband is known for hiding and eating junk food before the kids (or I!) see him! lol If its good quality chocolate it never sees the trash. I made sure that all got eaten up before I had to go back to eating good 🙂